Parenting Woes – Take #3108

Hi, I’m Separated Dad, or “SD” to most of you. I imagine that by now I’m a fading memory, it’s been so long since I posted.

You can tell from from the title of this post that I haven’t been on vacation. I wish I had.

Instead I have a sorry tale to tell.

Some weeks ago, my youngest — Charlotte – switched from fainting occasionally in class to fainting 8-10 times per day. This caused her little consternation, as she rarely bumped her head and generally felt like she was getting a short nap multiple times per day. Other students and teachers, however, had some trouble getting used to finding Charlotte sprawled out in classrooms and hallways.

The clinic and counselor for the school had many discussions with me. On a number of occasions, I was asked to bring her home from school. Working in downtown Washington D.C. and bringing home a child are not very compatible and I used up a bunch of goodwill organizing rides home for Charlotte.

One afternoon, she fainted twice on the school bus. For Charlotte, an annoyance. For the bus driver, a scare. The second time, he didn’t just stop the bus, he called the paramedics. It took all my negotiation skills for them to NOT bring her to the emergency room, but instead let her go home with a parent. After this, the vice-principal banned her from the school bus until the fainting was resolved. Uggh. (Although I do see her point.)

Fortunately, I had already spoken to our local doc and Charlotte was scheduled to see a pediatric cardiologist the very next day. After running hours of tests (way beyond the short appointment we’d originally expected), he concluded that a lack of proper hydration may be the primary cause. As in, Charlotte may not be drinking enough water and, for this and other reasons, it was combining to produce the fainting.

The other reasons included both a family history of low blood pressure on her mom’s side and a medication she was taking that has dizziness as a possible side effect.

Hydration wasn’t enough to solve the problem and, yet again, Charlotte had to be removed from school. This time, I was told not to bring her back until the fainting was resolved.

So far, things were simply time-consuming.

That weekend, Charlotte decided to step things up and take more of her medication than she was supposed to. No, it didn’t make things better than taking the normal amount. Instead she ended up in the emergency room feeling very ill indeed. After that, she was moved by ambulance to a Pediatric ICU at another local hospital that could monitor her more carefully.

This was the day that my flu symptoms took hold. I had meant to get a flu shot right after Thanksgiving, as I have done for the last 20 years or so, but didn’t find the time. OOPS.

For the entire week that Charlotte was in hospital recovering, I was back and forth to the hospital with raging temperatures. I alternated between shivering and over-heating, especially as I walked between the hospital and the parking lot. Each night, I would perspire my way through the night. One night, I’d thrown the covers off after perspiring and was shivering uncontrollably. It took me some time to warm up and stop. Not a fun time!

Eventually, Charlotte came home. All was well. No, just kidding. Of course not! Off to a sleepover a few nights later, she had a minor seizure while relaxing. Back to the ER again. Yay! You know you’re having fun when they say “Hello again!” as you come in. *sigh*

This time she was merely observed until about 5am and then sent home. OK, it was a little more complicated than that, but I don’t share everything.

To sum up, for the last few weeks, I have barely been in the office (you will see me panhandling around the city soon as I used up all my sick leave). I have barely logged on to my PC/laptop. I have read hardly any blog posts from anyone and commented on even fewer. I have not responded to enough e-mails that I assume a lot of people are either sniffling into their pillow at night or grumpy and not speaking to me anymore, depending on their inclination. Although the flu is gone, I am still exhausted each day. One day this week, I switched my alarm off and didn’t wake until 10am. I think my body is telling me something…

Also, the pile of unopened mail is worrying. There must be something in there that’s important. But there’s a LOT of crap too. Nothing has red letters on the outside, so I assume I have no unpaid bills (I sign up for every automated payment I can for exactly this reason). I did get one call from a Collection agency but it was for something I *had* paid two weeks before and they had to offer a humble apology and go away with nothing.

Finally, you may have noticed that this post is about Charlotte. Does this mean that Amélie and Brigitte missed out on their chance for attention. Hahahaha! Of course not! In their own special ways, they both managed to add some woes to my list (which is why the ‘Woe #’ skips ahead so much between each post). For now, things seem to be calm again and it’s time to move on to new topics…


About Single Dad

I married young. Now, after more than 20 years of marriage, 3 wonderful daughters, and many ups and downs, my wife has decided the marriage is over. The "About Me" and "My Background" pages on my blog have more details.
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15 Responses to Parenting Woes – Take #3108

  1. Caroline says:

    Good grief I’m not surprised you haven’t been blogging or commenting. I do hope Charlotte is OK or being sorted out to be OK.

    Flu, real flu, is bad news and takes a long time to recover from. Glad you’re recovering

    Good luck and may February be better

    • Charlotte is on the road to recovery, but not quite there yet. Maybe next week…

      I’m still getting the shivers at work sometimes. It’s been a REALLY long time since I had a genuine flu rather than a bad cold (which does, incidentally, feel like Ebola for a day or two).

      I’m not going to wait for February, I’m looking forward to joy before the end of January! This is not a year for hanging around and hoping, but for doing!

  2. Lost in France says:

    This sounds like a reel tough opener for 2012, for you all.

    Hope things get resolved sooner rather than later.

    • Thank LIF,
      The year started out well. Watching from the stands as the New York Giants won the last game of their regular season was fun. So far they’ve won every game in the playoffs. Other than the regular hospital visits and flu (and the bad cold the week BEFORE the flu stepped in), it’s going well!

  3. backonmyown says:

    Oh, SD, what nightmares you’ve been through. I’m so sorry for all the woes. I most especially hope that Charlotte’s issues are ironed out by now. Sending good thoughts and hugs to you and your girls.

    • Thanks Pat.
      Nightmares? I’m so used to this crap these days, it’s just stuff to be tolerated not something to be very bothered about. Seriously, one lady at work is thinking of resigning and doesn’t get how I handle the same kind of things without fuss. She’s single, without kids, so has No Idea… At the hospital, a number of people asked why I wasn’t more worried or stressed. Well, I was feeling too ill to care, but don’t tell anyone that bit. I was also sure that things were going to be fine and I gave my own parents enough scares — getting hit by a car, for example, TWICE (different cars!) — to know that kids bounce back quicker than you expect.

  4. Holy god…hope things get better for you soon love 🙂

  5. TikkTok says:

    Oh honey! Scary bad! Hope you are on the mend and they can get her sorted out. I don’t suppose Mum has been any help with her down at the hospital? You prolly know this already, but bump up your vitamin C and get some Echinacea on board….. {{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}

  6. mysterycoach says:

    Oh my… What are the side affects of this medication she’s been taking, how long has she been taking this? What did they say is exactly going on? What about an internist? I want to know what is causing the seizures … and what kind of tests did they do? You don’t even want to know how many physicians my daughter went to see when her back was giving her problems years ago… we saw all of them. I’m not saying, you haven’t thought of everything, I am saying have they figured out the problem yet? Yes… I did read the whole thing but now that she has had a seizure … that’s a frightening thing.

    I hope your cold/flu fever thing is better now too… I didn’t check the date on here (sorry) so it could be over by now…

    And! How bout all those questions huh? 🙂 (mine)

  7. I hope you get answers, and your lives (yours and Charlotte’s) get back on some sort of equilibrium soon.

  8. lifeandothermisadventures says:

    I’m so sorry to hear it! What a difficult time you’ve been going through. I hope you have friends you can reach out to for help?

  9. Lady E says:

    Big hugs to the girls and you…And glad you’ve got a bit of help in facing all this crap.

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  11. anne says:

    Oh goodness, I just read this one, SD!! It is not just raining, it is pouring on you these days. Please take care of your self too. Is Charlotte better now? I oculdn’t tell from today’s post which daughter is depressed, and which one is taking the pills.

    Hang in there!

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