Monthly Archives: November 2011

The marriage that WAS and the relationship that IS

Posted on November 27, 2011 by

It’s now been 9 months since my runaway wife said it was over and moved into the basement bedroom suite. It’s been 7 months since she moved out to her own apartment. In that time she has had very little … Continue reading →

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Four is a Family

Posted on November 26, 2011 by

It’s about time I created a post that reflected the new URL for this blog. I spent the first two Thanksgivings in the USA alone, in 1997 and 1998. Danielle and the girls were in England and, each time, other … Continue reading →

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Panic and Anxiety

Posted on November 18, 2011 by

I’ve been more reflective (and prolific) this week. Today I am turning to some things from my past. When I logged on to this laptop for the first time in a while, I found a group of browser tabs from … Continue reading →

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Anger turned inward

Posted on November 18, 2011 by

I started with this simple post, wondering about the status of my marriage. As you may know, things got worse, especially with regard to my three girls and how they reacted to the tension in the house. In fact, the … Continue reading →

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Communications Overload

Posted on November 17, 2011 by

When we joke about information overload and how it’s a modern world, I’m not sure everyone appreciates just how pervasive technology has become for communications. For example, this is how I communicate with various relatives and friends (in no particular … Continue reading →

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Categories for new friends

Posted on November 17, 2011 by

Now that I am single (separated), I think about the women I meet differently. At one time, they could be either friends or less than that. Now there is the possibility of something more than friends; that takes some adjustment. … Continue reading →

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Penpals (1998-1999)

Posted on November 16, 2011 by

In early 1998, my marriage was on the rocks and we separated. For now, the details aren’t important. It might be a long post for another day. I was consulting around the USA, flying out of Dallas for the whole … Continue reading →

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Succeed or Fail, Win or Lose…You Choose

Posted on November 13, 2011 by

I include this in the categories of Divorce and Separation because we get to decide the outcome of many of our relationships just by orienting ourselves in the right direction. One of the things I have always liked about mathematics … Continue reading →

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The detritus of a relationship

Posted on November 10, 2011 by

The breakdown of a relationship is no fun at all. Those plans and ideas about a joint future are like suspended tendrils reaching out into the distance. As the relationship is terminated, they all come crashing down, cut off at … Continue reading →

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What’s Next? (Old Draft)

Posted on November 9, 2011 by

(I wrote this as a Note on my phone when I was in England with Brigitte and Charlotte in July. Here it is now, slightly unfinished, and still slightly relevant.) As the train meanders through the English Surrey countryside to … Continue reading →

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