When you set your mind to something, achievements can be accomplished quickly.
On Friday, my wife, who I am calling Danielle for privacy purposes, made it clear that time was up, it was over.
This afternoon, she decided on an Apartment (a “flat”, to my European friends). It’s very nice: hardwood floors, granite kitchentop and stainless steel appliance, plenty of space (over 900 sq ft or 84 m2), walk-in closets, a wonderful view, etc. Frankly, if I were single with no kids, I’d be perfectly happy with it myself. And this is what she will be: single with no kids.
She moves in on Tuesday.
My new and different life begins shortly. I don’t know which way it will go, I know for sure I will not get it right first time, I am pleased that my mild depression has lost me 5 pounds since returning from Ocean City and I seem to have lost the urge to eat (don’t worry, it will be a little while before this is a problem as more than 20 years of marriage leaves you ‘comfortable’). Other than the issues of love and loss, I also have to take on more of the workload in a fairly big house (perhaps 3400 sq ft or 316 m2) set on a half-acre of land. Just keeping the yard/garden tidy at this warm and moist time of year requires Constant Vigilance (anyone read Harry Potter?). The chores might seem to be the least of the problems in a break-up, but washing, drying, ironing, cooking is — as almost anyone here already knows — not trivial. It sucks up a lot of time, and why should my girls have to take on a big share of all this when two are so young?
I worry mostly for the girls. I won’t use names this time, not even their Blog names. One told me she was pleased because there would a calmer house to live in. One burst into tears and needed comforting. One said little, but later threw a fairly impressive Temper Tantrum (yes, capitals are appropriate). They’re hurting in different ways, which means I need to magically arrive at three different strategies for helping them.
Anyway, that’s me for now. Forgive me if I seem erratic in both timing and content of my posts and comments over coming weeks.