This will be short because I am *cough* suffering from a man cold (Wikipedia mysteriously does not cover this at all and I am considering updating it to provide an accurate description of the varied and severe symptoms). The likelihood *splutter* of survival is marginal. This sure beats all of those minor marriage problems I’ve been complaining about. Woe is me. *moan*
If I only I knew a virus specialist who could confirm everything I said about the dreaded man cold. Oh wait, I do know just such a gentle soul.
To my theme for the day…
First, my mother’s husband (she re-married a few years ago) called me from Australia to say that my mother has been extremely depressed and even ill recently because I haven’t called her in more than 6 weeks, because I have ignored her e-mail (one), and a range of crimes along similar lines. My dear old mum manages to pull out a surprise like this every so often; always when I least expect it. After all, it’s not like she couldn’t call me. I could have got all snooty and angry with my new step-father but chose the high ground and explained to him that I hadn’t called because it appears my marriage is over and I didn’t want to make it ‘real’ by telling my mum that her beloved daughter-in-law has completely lost it. That took the wind out of his sails. But he did have a point: I shouldn’t have left it so long. I just didn’t want to lie when I got the very first question: “How are things?” I asked to speak to my mother, but she was out. So I didn’t end up being able to actually solve the problem directly. I left it up to my step-father to pass on the news; I wonder if he’s debating whether to get involved next time…
Second, my oldest daughter is at college now (university). Although she is not here, she seems to be taking it all much worse than her two younger sisters. I could speculate why, but I’m honestly not really sure. The net effect (**) is that she now doesn’t want to come back home on weekends as she did regularly for the first part of her college year. She’s considering not coming home at all for the summer, but instead staying with a college friend. That hurts. She and I have always been very close and my problems are hurting her to the extent she doesn’t want to be around.
(**) “net” versus “nett” … yes, I speak English English. But I am writing from the USA and might as well use the local language. So please don’t kick my butt too much over the spelling ‘errors’.
Finally, I didn’t mention it earlier, but my wife decided to change her Facebook status. She’s not a big user and didn’t appreciate the implications. She changed our relationship from Married to Complicated. This was visible to all of my Facebook friends and generated a lot of comments. My friends that assumed I changed the status, and it was some witty comment on marriage, and it was just like me to be a smart-ass like this. I hadn’t realized that everyone would see the change. It’s one step short of making it completely public. I expect that can no longer be very far in the future.
At least my man cold will be gone in a day or two. These other problems are going to take some thinking about.