Ringing in a new day

A funny thing happened tonight.

Well, not funny in the sense anyone laughed. It was closer to a crying than a laughing situation if truth be told.

I noticed that my wife is no longer wearing her engagement or wedding rings. I almost said something, and she noticed me staring and said, “What?” I decided friction wouldn’t help with this and let it go. If she figured out exactly what I saw, she didn’t say anything.

So, I took a brave and threatening step forward and took off my wedding ring too. It is now in the safe so I don’t lose it. But I feel naked without it, almost like I am cheating on her or pretending to be single when I really am not. Yet. Is it reasonable to mirror this? I think I would feel like a chump if I continued wearing mine while she shows herself as ‘available’ to anyone who notices she is ‘ring-free’.

I found myself trying to adjust my now-absent ring dozens of time this evening when in a meeting. Something didn’t feel right, but it was just the absence I noticed. Just like when I returned home to the ’empty’ house, with everyone already in bed and only me walking around.


About Single Dad

I married young. Now, after more than 20 years of marriage, 3 wonderful daughters, and many ups and downs, my wife has decided the marriage is over. The "About Me" and "My Background" pages on my blog have more details.
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