A funny thing happened tonight.
Well, not funny in the sense anyone laughed. It was closer to a crying than a laughing situation if truth be told.
I noticed that my wife is no longer wearing her engagement or wedding rings. I almost said something, and she noticed me staring and said, “What?” I decided friction wouldn’t help with this and let it go. If she figured out exactly what I saw, she didn’t say anything.
So, I took a brave and threatening step forward and took off my wedding ring too. It is now in the safe so I don’t lose it. But I feel naked without it, almost like I am cheating on her or pretending to be single when I really am not. Yet. Is it reasonable to mirror this? I think I would feel like a chump if I continued wearing mine while she shows herself as ‘available’ to anyone who notices she is ‘ring-free’.
I found myself trying to adjust my now-absent ring dozens of time this evening when in a meeting. Something didn’t feel right, but it was just the absence I noticed. Just like when I returned home to the ’empty’ house, with everyone already in bed and only me walking around.